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We Never Really Hear About
Marriage Counselling Successes!
_It can be so easy to focus one's attention on the negatives and each of the failures one encounters in life. The media seems to thrive on what is bad or not right with society and people like conflict, divorce, separation, and more. On an other hand, marriage counseling success stories are not widely shared as they are usually individual and private triumphs for each couple.
There are many more situation but here we take a look at three generic situations and how marriage counseling helped them.
The Blended Family
If you were to watch the Brady Bunch, then you would think that blended families got along just fine and life is easy for the partners and the new siblings. In the overwhelming majority of cases this statement is simply not true.
Conflict between blended siblings, disrespect for the new spouse, and assorted emotional problems can wreak havoc in short order and is an often reported occurrence. To work through and overcome these problems marriage counseling coupled with individual family counseling is essential to creating some order and new approaches for all members of the blended family.
The Wayward Spouse
Jim was a devoted father, husband, and successful businessman. Karen, his wife, loved their children but did not love Jim. Unresolved issues from her childhood were evident in their marriage and took a toll on their relationship.
Eventually, Karen developed an extra-marital relationship and met up with a co-worker for adulterous activities. Later, Jim discovered Karen's unfaithfulness and confronted her about her waywardness. Karen admitted to the problem, sought Jim's forgiveness, and the couple began months of long marriage counseling sessions to help restore their marriage.
In addition, Karen received specialized individual help from a trained therapist to root out the problems from her childhood. Karen learned to love herself as well as to for the first time truly love Jim. Jim forgave his wife and their marriage became stronger than it had ever been.
There are many more situation but here we take a look at three generic situations and how marriage counseling helped them.
The Blended Family
If you were to watch the Brady Bunch, then you would think that blended families got along just fine and life is easy for the partners and the new siblings. In the overwhelming majority of cases this statement is simply not true.
Conflict between blended siblings, disrespect for the new spouse, and assorted emotional problems can wreak havoc in short order and is an often reported occurrence. To work through and overcome these problems marriage counseling coupled with individual family counseling is essential to creating some order and new approaches for all members of the blended family.
The Wayward Spouse
Jim was a devoted father, husband, and successful businessman. Karen, his wife, loved their children but did not love Jim. Unresolved issues from her childhood were evident in their marriage and took a toll on their relationship.
Eventually, Karen developed an extra-marital relationship and met up with a co-worker for adulterous activities. Later, Jim discovered Karen's unfaithfulness and confronted her about her waywardness. Karen admitted to the problem, sought Jim's forgiveness, and the couple began months of long marriage counseling sessions to help restore their marriage.
In addition, Karen received specialized individual help from a trained therapist to root out the problems from her childhood. Karen learned to love herself as well as to for the first time truly love Jim. Jim forgave his wife and their marriage became stronger than it had ever been.
Bones Couples Therapy
The Uncommitted Couple
Marriage is a commitment made evident through the blessings of the church and the acknowledgment of the state. When both are present, then a marriage covenant has been put in place. However, couples living apart from a marriage covenant often find themselves unable to truly commit their lives to each other.
This lack of commitment can destroy an already fragile relationship. Marriage counseling can help the unmarried or defacto couple too. Addressing of issues at this point and possibly pre marriage could result in the legal union of husband and wife before family members and friends, where the union begins based on a good foundation.
Every marriage counseling session is as unique as the individuals involved. There is no "one size fits all" way to help couples as every couple has their own problems and their own way of approaching the handling of conflict.
A trained marriage counseling professional will recognize individuality and tailor each session to handle whatever conflicts may be present. If you find such a professional, hold onto to them as their insights will be a likely step to developing strength and cementing a solid foundation for the relationship!